Ok, now I will be honest. I have lied in my past. I have tried not to hurt someone's feelings or said something a little bit "stretchy" as my Me Ma would say. I watched my daughter yesterday try very hard not to TELL the truth so she wouldn't hurt a friend's feelings AND so her friend wouldn't "catch on" to what she was doing. Of course, this was unacceptable and we caught her in the act and corrected her on the spot.
But.... I wonder about those people that have those BIG lies. Those ones that eat at them. You see, I have been lied to a great deal over the past eight months. In part, I have been asked for forgiveness by someone and have had to listen to many things that were hurtful since I was lied to. In the end, I'm sure having to tell me that I was lied to and having to "come clean" as they say is hard but really helps the healing process. Unfortunately, not everyone "comes clean". We can't make them - this I am aware of. I am learning that some people start believing in their lies. Or sometimes their lies become their life. They can't separate their lie from their life.
I didn't realize that being a liar could take over one's life not unlike any other mental condition.
After dealing with someone who I would consider a compulsive liar I had to look it up.
Compulsive lying is called 'pseudologia fantastica'. It comes from many different sources. Most specifically, as you've guessed, is a lack of self-esteem, driven by an underlying depression. Sometimes it is driven bya personality disorder. At the very least it is a characterologicaldisturbance. At the worst, it is a sign of sociopathology
OK - so Now I know I'm dealing with someone with the morals/honestly/character that you normally don't deal with. Is it worth trying to get an honest answer out of them. Now that I see it this way I'm sure they will just come up with another lie. I can't compete with it. I'm just not that good.
I can barely keep up with the truth - oh the truth - the truth for me - NOT TO LIE!!
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Keep writing... You are good... I like the subjects that you seem to talk about...
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